Gwyneth, Ivanka, and the End of the Effortless White Woman

Women are increasingly rejecting the idea that they can follow their bliss into having it all

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I used to have an image of the woman I wanted to be. It was one perfect, still moment in time: I would be out on a deck (I would have enough money for a deck — also, presumably, a house to attach it to) in the…