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The Parents Are Not All Right

Chloe I. Cooney
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6 min readApr 5, 2020

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“I just want to cry,” I told my wife on Friday morning.

I had just gotten off a work call and my brain was ticking through follow-up items, adding to a long list of untouched to-dos. My wife, meanwhile, was multitasking an onslaught of work questions while also trying to manage “homeschool” time with our son — but he refused to participate. Instead, he huddled in an increasingly secure couch fort, refusing to do anything — color, read, go outside, talk to his teacher — besides sit in silence in the dark or watch his iPad. (Today, he opted for sitting in silence in the dark).

“Are we permanently ruining and psychologically damaging him?” my wife pleaded with me.

We both felt guilty for the work we were not doing — and aching for the way our son was struggling and needed us to be present and calm. But that’s exactly what our current schedule prohibits, as we run back and forth between…

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Chloe I. Cooney
Chloe I. Cooney

Written by Chloe I. Cooney

Advocate & writer. Focused on feminist movement building, global health and human rights. Parent 24/7. Views are my own. Twitter: @chloeicooney

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In general, we ignore kids.
We pass the buck to teachers (but pay them bupkus,) to volunteer coaches, to adolescent baby sitters, to nannies, to camp counselors, to their peers, to video games, to youtubers, to the streets. We pretend to value family…

So what you’re saying is parenting in the way our elders used to is,… wait for it….hard?
Of course it is! New-age feminism has taught us since the ’60s that women can have careers, raise kids, care for households all at the same time. This is what’s…