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We still value girls’ etiquette over their comfort

A portrait of two young girls confidently standing together against a blue backdrop.
A portrait of two young girls confidently standing together against a blue backdrop.

My daughter hates to hurt people’s feelings. It’s one of the things I love most about her — she’s an incredibly sweet kid. But her desire not to make anyone feel bad can sometimes mean that she gets roped into playing games that she doesn’t have any interest in, or that she doesn’t stand up for herself when she should.

And so like a lot of parents of young girls, I’m trying to teach Layla how to say “no” without feeling like she’s a bad person or letting someone down. It’s harder than you think. …


Jessica Valenti

Let’s not overlook the obvious

Americans are having less sex: Teenagers are having sex for the first time later, young adults are on pace to have fewer sex partners, and adults as a whole are having intercourse approximately 10 fewer times per year. The most recent cover story of the Atlantic calls it a “sex recession” — complete with pictures of a bird and bee looking away from each other sadly. The sweeping piece looks at everything from the rise of masturbation and pornography to hook-up culture and Tinder as possible explanations.

One of the most likely reasons people are having less sex, however, is…

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