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The Deadly Incel Movement’s Absurd Pop Culture Roots
From a cheesy VH1 reality show to mass killing
For years, one of the first Google hits on my name was an article titled “Stalking Sady Doyle.” It was written in 2011 by the “men’s rights” advocate Paul Elam.
The post was a response to an article I’d written about sexist internet harassment. Elam — who had set up a fake “sex offender registry,” called Register-Her.com, to destroy the Google results of women who attended feminist protests — was, unsurprisingly, not persuaded by my points. When he began threatening me, his vision turned apocalyptic.
We stood poised at “the beginning of a boil over,” Elam promised, a “tipping point” that would wipe feminists off the map, sometimes violently. Women like me were going to experience “much more organized, high impact consequences…courtesy of the men’s movement.”
“Simply put, we are coming for you. For all of you,” he wrote, in bold type. “And by the time we are done, you will wax nostalgic over the days when all you had to deal with was someone expressing the desire to fuck you up your shopworn ass.”
In 2011, the thought of terrorism organized by a group of sexist men online was laughable. So I did the professional thing: I ignored…
