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Power Trip

The Finger Banger and the Heart Fucker

Men are capable of inflicting incredible harm—and incredible healing

Photo: László Polgár/EyeEm/Getty

AA weekend night in Berkeley, in the very early 2000s: Groups of students roamed the south side of campus, wandering in and out of parties in the frat houses lining Piedmont, Bancroft, and Channing, those giant, multistory homes with their…