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The Myth of Soulmates

Advice from someone who’s been married for 10 years

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TTen years ago today, I got married in an upstate New York ceremony that I planned down to the dinner napkin placement and band’s song order. I wore gray instead of white — I had just written a book decrying America’s obsession with virginity — and had spent the two previous nights meticulously punching…




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Jessica Valenti

Jessica Valenti

Feminist author & columnist. Native NYer, pasta enthusiast.

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