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The Upside of Raising a ‘Rude’ Daughter

We still value girls’ etiquette over their comfort

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MyMy daughter hates to hurt people’s feelings. It’s one of the things I love most about her — she’s an incredibly sweet kid. But her desire not to make anyone feel bad can sometimes mean that she gets roped into playing games that she doesn’t have any interest in, or that she…




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Jessica Valenti

Jessica Valenti

Feminist author & columnist. Native NYer, pasta enthusiast.

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