Women Deserve More Than Soft Power

We tell women to achieve their goals by charming the men around them — but charm is just helplessness with a positive spin

Illustration: Olena Yepifanova/Getty

We blame adult women for every horrible thing that happens to them, and yet we call women demanding and pushy for trying to stay in control of their lives.

Author of “Trainwreck” (Melville House, ‘16) and “Dead Blondes and Bad Mothers” (Melville House, ‘19). Columns published far and wide across the Internet.

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